God's Character Woman

Friday, November 12, 2010

Silent Killer: Emotional Abuse

What is Emotional Abuse?
- any behavior that is designed to control and subjugate another human being through the use of fear, humiliation, intimidation, guilt, and manipulation that wears away at the victim's self-confidence, sense of self-worth, trust in their own perceptions, and self-concept.
- anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics, such as repeated disapproval or even the refusal to ever be pleased.
 With constant berating and belittling, by intimidation, or under the guise of "guidance," "teaching", or "advice," that results in the person clinging to the abuser because they do not want to be alone.

For more information: http://eqi.org/eabuse1.htm#What%20is%20Emotional%20Abuse?

Many women today are dealing with emotional abuse. Surprised? I am too. Just think you can go to work or school everyday. You would enjoy lunch with a co-worker or school mate, maybe even do some small talk here and there. Then one day you find out this strong, independent, outgoing, and caring woman is being abused by her mate. Well, you may be going through this right now and not even know it. 

A girl in one of my classes got up and spoke about her abuse. She gave her testimony of being in this abusive relationship. It just shocked me. I had been sitting by her every class and I didn't know. Now she is not in this relationship now but she was giving her speech in class. Though I did not know her before, I was so proud of her for USING HER VOICE! No longer was she keeping silent about her experience. She spoke. He could not stop her from speaking up anymore. She smiled. The smile he tried to take away from her. She got it back. She laughs and tells jokes. He did not have her joy. His abuse was no longer taking her life. She has reclaimed her voice. Because of her voice another girl in my class heard. She spoke about her current abuse. She gave her the courage to speak up. Many people deny and pretend but it is time to stop and stand.

 Now I know many of us would say this would never happen to me but it could be happening to you right now!  Let me encourage you to speak up about your situation. We care about you. You care about yourself, right?  Then you should not stand for your abuse anymore. Arrive..You are BOLD, BEAUTIFUL, TRUE, and NATURALLY YOU! You are BIGGER than you appear. You are STRONGER than you seem. For example you have been dealing with a abuse for so long and your still kicking!
The task ahead of you, is never as great as the power behind you.
Be strong in the Lord, and in the power of His might.
- Ephesians 6:10 

If there is anyone dealing with emotional abuse. Speak. Use your voice. Your God given Voice! I am here and I am sure there are many people around you who do care.

I know it will be difficult but you need your freedom back! You will no longer be imprisoned by someone else.
Use your voice. Speak UP!

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